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namaste! welcome to today’s hindi video.i hope you guys have been looking forward to this video as much as i have been excited to record it.i’ve just returned from india and i’ve been excited about quite a lot of things, that’s why this video hasbeen delayed a bit. i hope you’ll forgive me for that. this was supposed to be the hindi video for march thati’m putting up in the first week of april; so please forgive me for that. i really feel bad about this,and i hope you guys will understand.
i’m really happy because in the video i’mmaking today, i’ll be speaking to you guys in hindi, as you can already see. the topic for today’s videois relationships, betrayal, love, and other similar things and related problems. recently, if you guys havecome to know… i believe many of you might have already heardabout the recent death of renowned tv actress pratyusha banerjee. it’s being investigatedby the police and they haven’t yet come to a conclusion yet about whether it was a suicide or she wasmurdered. but i’d like to tell you one thing.
the death occurred on the 1 st of april and over thepast 4 days i’ve been a little upset and i’m constantly checking the news updates about her death. so i thoughtthat the video i share with you guys this month should be related to relationships, love, advice,etc. so, let’s begin. firstly, how much you love someone…in fact,if you love any person in the world, you tend to become
dependent on them, whether it’s a boy ora girl. and love is something that’s not restricted to romantic love between a boy and a girl. it’s somethingthat you feel even towards a friend…like if i have a friend and i spend a lot of time with her and shareeverything with her, and she cares a lot about me, i will experience love for her. i’ll become extremelyfond of her and attached to her. so, when we share a lot with a person, do everything for them, dedicateall we have to them, and when that person
hurts us, it is something that is very hard to accept. ourmind, our heart finds it impossible to accept that the person is causing us pain, or is trying to get usout of their lives, or just doesn’t think about the relationship as we do. so, all that i would like to say is that,taking an example, suppose you have a boyfriend, or a girlfriend. and you have a certain relationship. you’vedone a lot for your partner. actually, what
i’ve observed is that when there are two people in a relationship,it almost always happens that one of them tends to love the other a bit more. it’s not thatthe other person doesn’t love the other; it’s just that one loves the other a great deal more. and this personwho loves more starts expecting a lot from their partner. and when those expectations aren’t met,when they don’t get all that they want, they begin to feel hurt.
and when they feel hurt, they either startgetting depressed about it within themselves without saying anything to others, and this pain continuesto eat away at them from within, creating a lot of problems in their life. many people in the world have fame, wealth,they’ve got it all. but they haven’t got a partner in their life, which is what is needed most in thisworld. they say even if you lose your house, or your money, or
your job, it doesn’t hurt as much as losinga relationship. all our relationships, within our family, or with anyone, are extremely important for us. so what i’d like to say is that i know manyof those in my audience are between the ages of 15 and 25, and even above 25. but this particular agebetween 15 and 25 years is, i feel, a bit naã¯ve. i’ve been through that age and i know that when youare at that age, especially in our indian tradition where we
can’t really talk about everything withour parents, not just parents and brothers and sisters, but we even find it difficult to share things happeningin our life with our friends or colleagues, because the first thing that everyone thinks about is, ‘whatare people going to say?’ now this sentence ‘what are people going to say?’ i cannot tell you how muchi have hated it since i was a child. if there is any thing in the world and someone asks me not to do it because‘what are people going to say?’ there
can be nothing more unfortunate than that. because in thislife, we, as long as we live within the four walls of our house, we live with ourselves, we don’tlive with people, and they don’t come to us and ask what’s bothering us. it’s only once we step outdo people start talking. so what we do is that we think about thisand we don’t share our problems with anyone. and when we don’t share and continue suffocating andhurting within, we start thinking negatively
about ourselves, or about taking steps that harm us. so what i’dlike to say to my audience, you guys who are watching me, that if any one of you is going through asimilar experience where you feel that you’re alone in this world, a huge mountain has collapsed overyou, you’re extremely sad, you’ve no friend or companion, no support, or if you think you’ve committedsome mistake in life, i want to tell you first of all that all
such thoughts, no matter what they are about,simply throw them out of your mind. there’s nothing like that. your life is your own, your body belongsto you, your parents or your siblings, or society or family, nobody has a right to it. it’s all yours.and if you are thinking about what people will say, or feeling that you’ve done something terribly wrong, orafter a failed relationship you are feeling depressed, experiencing negative thoughts, get it allout of your life. because the reality of the
world is that no person wants to tell bad things about themselvesto the world, but we all have some problems, some failures. and a lot of us go through a lotof bad things in life, but we don’t talk to people about it. for example, just look at what’s happening nowadays,cheating—that’s a word that i feel it has become so easy to cheat anyone nowadays. there’s socialmedia, people live independently, people have money,
so many places one can go, technology hasbecome so advanced that locating anyone in the world, the world is so connected now, so there’s avast difference between the world now and the world before. and because of this difference there are manythings we cannot talk about to our parents or family, and we grapple with them. so i want to tell youthat i am with you. if you’re going through any such problem, write me an email. my email id isdown there in the video description. or you
can comment on my video. i am here to talk with you, andif, apart from me, if you feel alone or in a wrong relationship, simply don’t think that you’ve done amistake, stop blaming yourself; let it go. in fact, even if it is your mistake, or you’ve done something wrong,accept it and try to get out of it. i don’t want any human being to destroy their life over things likelove, relationship, or cheating. so there are some things which if i startexplaining right now, like how would you know
if someone is cheating on you, how would you know if someonereally loves you, how would you know if you should give a second chance to someone who has cheatedon you, or betrayed you. there’s a lot that can be said about these things, and it’s impossibleto explain all of it in a single video. but, to put it shortly, if there is any problemin your life, especially related to love, cheating, betrayal…this word cheating is just oneword, but when you really think about it and
talk about it, you think of all the different ways in which peoplecan betray, it could take an entire night. i simply want to say that if any one of youis at a stage where you are confused about what to do or you are stuck in the wrong relationship, pleasetalk to someone. it’s extremely important that you talk to someone. don’t struggle with it on yourown. my state of mind right now is a bit disturbed,this incident with pratyusha isn’t the first of its kind, and
i’ve seen many people in my life who becomea wreck following heartbreak. but some people pull themselves together. so if you are in a badsituation, please get yourself out of it. have a strong heart, and don’t take a bad decision or a bad stepthat will create more problems for you or your family. and i really want you to take my word for it thatit’s not like what’s happening with you is happening for the first time with anybody in the world. evenif you have recently had a breakup or the
one you love doesn’t love you, or there are a lot ofcomplexities in your relationship, and it’s not working out the way you want it to, give yourself time, thinkabout it, and if you feel that you’re in the wrong place, or if your heart and mind is uncertain, or if your heartsays one thing and your mind says another, then pull yourself out of it and focus on somethingelse. go shopping, do something creative, spend time with
family and friends, talk to them, but don’ttake any decision that will push you towards depression or in a bad situation. now, let’s talk about other things. firstly,what is love? a lot of people fall in love but it doesn’t necessarily mean that every person in theworld would fall in love. but if someone does fall in love, they become blind in love. but it is very importantto know whether your love, the person you love, whether
it’s a boy or a girl, is true or not. manytimes love is one-sided and the other person takes advantage of you. so if you feel someone is continuouslytaking advantage of you, i think you need to control your feelings and not get carried away by them.don’t play with your life. because if some time after you have done a lot for a person—spent your time,energy and possessions on them—it becomes very difficult to get out of it. the thing is that just as weinvest in our house, car, jewelry, or bank,
and money is very important, but when those things get lostor broken, we come out of it easily. but when we invest our love and emotions on someone and that goesbad, then there’s nothing more heartbreaking. people don’t go into depression so much after losinga house or a car than they do after a broken relationship. so it’s absolutely important that as soonas you begin a relationship with someone, use your mind along
with your heart. i know people say love isblind and you cannot always see these things; but, as far as i know, yes, love is blind, sometimes you cannotsee these things; but, after some time, if that person is not right for you, and you’ll realize italong the way that that person is not right, then there’s nothing wrong with getting yourself out of such arelationship or situation. and don’t worry about what people are going to say or what the world is goingto say. whether you’re single or in a long-term
relationship, or you’ve just stepped into a relationshipfor the first time, or you’re married. if you are in a place where you don’t get respect, or you feel depressed,you are in pain or are experiencing a lot of problems, i would only ask you to talk to someone whois your own, your family, your friends. another thing, if you are thinking about that when you come outof a relationship people are going to say ‘oh, she’s had a
breakup’ or ‘oh, her marriage broke up’or ‘oh, this or that happened’ then please don’t think about these people. when we sleep at night we needour own peace to sleep with and we need to look at our own lives. so don’t think about any wrongstep or thing. when we are in a relationship it doesn’t matter who we talk to. having friends, the rightfriends, is very important. if you have friends who give you wrong advice, then you will obviously fallinto wrong things. it’s also very important
that your friends are good. the last and the most important thing i wantto say to you is that if you have been cheated or betrayed and are trying to come out of it, then themost important thing is to stop thinking about that person. so if you’ve been through a breakup, a relationshiphas broken, if you’re trying to come out of something, then the most important thing is that youchange everything in your immediate environment,
your house, and throw out everything that remindsyou of that person, burn them, throw then in the trash, and don’t have any common friends so thatyou can remove that man or woman from your life completely. it’s very important that youstop thinking about them. another thing, if you’ve been betrayed and you see yourself as being preyedupon by that person, or being victimized by that person,
then don’t allow yourself to be victimizedagain and again. come out of it. there are people who get betrayed but theykeep giving their partners another chance, and they remain stuck in that pattern. this is a wrong aswell. if you truly love someone, and you’ve caught them cheating on you, and they apologize to you,plead with you, and you forgive them, if it’s the first time, it doesn’t mean that you have to keep forgivingthem every time. don’t do it more than once or twice
because, as people say, someone who betraysonce undergoes a process where they betray again and again. so don’t give them an opportunityafter one or two chances. i’d like to give you a few important tipsto come out of a cheated relationship and to get stabilize your relationship. the most important thing isto talk with your partner. and when you talk make everything clear. there’s no need to hide anythingand if talking does not lead to a solution, and you find yourself
repeating it over and over, then you shouldend the relationship. it’s also important for you to listen to your partner’s point of view, what theyhave to say. sometimes our suspicions aren’t actually true, but our sixth sense is actually very sharp, itdoesn’t suspect without cause. so if your partner is constantly giving you reason to suspect, then it’simportant that you listen to them, understand their point of view, and then decide what you need to do. and thethird thing is that you listen to your heart.
if you feel from within that the person is lying still,is constantly saying one thing and doing the opposite, and if your conscience tells you it’s wrong, thensimply get yourself out of it. some more important things. it’s very importantthat you come out of such betrayed relationships. another thing, you don’t need to hurt yourself.if someone cheats you or hurts you or betrays you, it’s their problem. never think you were cheatedbecause of anything to do with you, because cheating
happens when that person does not make thingsclear to you, doesn’t tell you things, and does one thing behind your back and another thing infront of you. never think that the relationship suffered because you were not beautiful enough or thatyou were lacking in some other quality. and lastly, if you want, if you think you’re sad, and you wantto talk to someone about it and if your friends or family are not near you, counseling is easily available.there are many doctors, counselors who can understand
your relationship unbiasedly. they listento both points of view and guide you about it. so there are many such helplines available, you can accessthose. finally, one more thing that i need to sayis that any of my viewers who are not in a relationship and who, who’ve never fallen in love, you arethe luckiest guys, trust me. love is really difficult, it’s not as simple as it seems. it’s as they say, ‘it’sa river of fire and you have to drown to cross it’. it’s so difficult.
not everyone attains love that easily. every person has a differentrelationship. love also enters your life in different ways. and, i want to say to people who don’t have love in theirlife, don’t bother those who do have love in their life, and, i don’tknow what to say, i just want to say, if you want me to make more videos like this, then i’ll be very happy to do them. in fact, i myself want to makesuch videos, i’ll just
work out how i can make more videos in hindion such topics, where i can cover these topics step by step. but i’ve already said what i had toabout cheating, love, betrayal. if you have a question, please, there’s the comments section below, do writethere. write in any language you want to. and i simply want to say that i love you a lot. goodbye!